Christie Anderson|
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach
My Story
Hi! I'm so glad to welcome you here.
I'm Christie Anderson; LCSW trauma therapist & Relationship Coach.
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Also, Mom, Wife, Author, Advocate... it really just depends on the day (and who's asking!)
An incredibly proud version of me after conquering an aerial treetop ropes course that I had been afraid to do for years!
My passion is helping women rebuild their self-esteem & take back their voice.
I have been helping women in and out of abusive or toxic relationships / home environments for the past 20 years.
I realized I loved the part where I saw the transformation, from surviving to THRIVING. That's where I help women grow and that's where I find my own strength.
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I got my undergraduate degree in Criminal Justice, fully expecting to become Olivia Benson and heal the world 1 "perp" at a time. But when my first graduate school internship landed me at a sexual assault support center,
I realized my calling as a healer.
In the earlier part of my career I struggled with managing my own insecurities, Imposer Syndrome, and never feeling worthy. Around this time I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a 1 year old, and was very unhappy in my marriage. While I was in radiation isolation treatment (a week of absolute solitude really gives you a chance to reassess your life), I realized that the work I had been doing with my clients; building up their confidence, empowering them to prioritize themselves, understanding toxic relationships, helping them to embrace their voice....
should have really been said to myself in a mirror.
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I had been focusing so much on helping others heal themselves, that I had neglected to help myself.
I realized that I had learned to minimize myself, stop prioritizing my wants/needs and had
allowed toxic people in my life to write my inner dialogue.
It sounded a lot like this:
"I screw up everything in my life!"
"I can't do anything right!"
"I am sick and tired of being walked all over and never being able to say NO!"
"Why am I such a terrible partner?"
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NOW, I am happily re-married and I'm reminded every day that relationships can be healthy. I work hard every day at showing up as the best person, wife, therapist, coach & mom I can be, and can finally give myself a healthy dose of self-compassion when I lose my ish (because, kids). But I am also much more self-aware of how my own experiences showed up for me in overwhelming self-blame, guilt and shame.
I can say "NO", instead of agreeing to everything.
I am not afraid to let my opinions be heard.
I believe I have valuable input, and deserve good things.
I don't blame myself for everything that goes wrong.
I learned to edit the critical voice in my head, embraced confidence, and boosted my self esteem.
I understand the dynamics of power, control and narcissism, and have learned that my internal dialogue was a reflection of them, not of myself.
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If I can learn this, you can too.
In my private practice I work with adults who have experienced trauma.
Here, I help women who have experienced narcissistic "love".
I help them find themselves, their voice, their confidence and their path.
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I would be honored to help you too!